Great Verse:
"It is by having compassion and the thought of universal responsibility that one finds the happiness of life, the real joy of life, the real meaning of life: one feels real peace and happiness in one's heart." - Lama Zopa Rinpoche.
Admist all the confusion about life worthiness... most people forgot the real meaning of our short life (80 yrs? 100yrs?).. that can really happens only when our hearts are compassionate abt humans and living beings ard us. If one is indulged in only seeing their own enjoyments and "happiness" (money, holidays, greed, laziness, etc)... sooner or later, they will only tend to dig deeper holes for themselves, going into more "emptiness" and "sufferings" before they start to ask again why things in life doesn't follow what they planned or wanted.
PS: Alright... I am a bit greedy... writing 2 posts in one night because I know I have not been diligently updating my own blog.. haha... But I keep falling sick these 2 months.. My life was like a "upset stomach" - churning and churning. And oh yes.. life can only move forward.
Sunday, March 30, 2008
Love
This is a portion of a Buddhist book I have read and it's called: "Three Teachings" by Venerable Tenzin Palmo. It will probably cleared up non-Buddhists' perception of the Buddha's teaching on "Love"... Interesting.. Let's enjoy...
"When the dharma talks abt non-attachment and detachment, it doesn't mean a lack of love. Sometimes people don't understand how Buddhism can talk abt compassion and love in one breath and non-attachment and all these qualities of renunciation in the other breath. But that's because we confuse love with clinging. We think if we love somebody, the measure of our loving is that we want to hold on to them. But that's not love, that's just self-love, attachment. It's not genuinely loving the other person, wanting them to be well and happy - that's wantingthem to make us well and happy. This is very important, because we confuse it all the time.
To hold people and possessions like this (hands outstretched to indicate holding something lightly in the palms) and not like this (fists clenched to indicate holding something very tightly). So that when we have them, we appreciate and rejoice in them, but if they go then we can let them go. Change and impermanence is the nature of everything.
You see, when we lose something we love, it's our attachment which is the problem, not the loss. That's what causes us grief. And that is why the Buddha taught that wth attachment comes fear and grief. We have the fear of losing, and then we have the grief when we lose. Buddha never said that love causes grief.
Love is the opening of the heart. It's like the sun shining. The sun just naturally shines. It doesn't discriminate, shining on this person but not on that one. It just shines, because it's the nature of the sun to give warmth. Some people go inside and close the doors and windows; that's their problem. The sun is shining anyway. And it's that quality of heart which we have to develop. That quality of open, unconditional loving, no matter what. I'm going to love you if you do this but I'm not going to love you anymore if you do that... parents do that, when their children don't obey."
"When the dharma talks abt non-attachment and detachment, it doesn't mean a lack of love. Sometimes people don't understand how Buddhism can talk abt compassion and love in one breath and non-attachment and all these qualities of renunciation in the other breath. But that's because we confuse love with clinging. We think if we love somebody, the measure of our loving is that we want to hold on to them. But that's not love, that's just self-love, attachment. It's not genuinely loving the other person, wanting them to be well and happy - that's wantingthem to make us well and happy. This is very important, because we confuse it all the time.
To hold people and possessions like this (hands outstretched to indicate holding something lightly in the palms) and not like this (fists clenched to indicate holding something very tightly). So that when we have them, we appreciate and rejoice in them, but if they go then we can let them go. Change and impermanence is the nature of everything.
You see, when we lose something we love, it's our attachment which is the problem, not the loss. That's what causes us grief. And that is why the Buddha taught that wth attachment comes fear and grief. We have the fear of losing, and then we have the grief when we lose. Buddha never said that love causes grief.
Love is the opening of the heart. It's like the sun shining. The sun just naturally shines. It doesn't discriminate, shining on this person but not on that one. It just shines, because it's the nature of the sun to give warmth. Some people go inside and close the doors and windows; that's their problem. The sun is shining anyway. And it's that quality of heart which we have to develop. That quality of open, unconditional loving, no matter what. I'm going to love you if you do this but I'm not going to love you anymore if you do that... parents do that, when their children don't obey."
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